YOU ARE NOT TOO MUCH! Never were.

Published 20 days ago • 1 min read

You are not too much.

What you’re experiencing is something more layered.

There’s a framework I teach called The Meaning Split™.

And once you see it, you cannot unsee it.

Here’s the concept: Most of us think we’re reacting to what happened in a room, in a conversation, in a moment.

We’re not.

We’re actually carrying three separate experiences — collapsed into one emotional response:

1. The INTENTION — what you actually meant. Your purpose in that moment.

2. The INTERPRETATION — how someone else received it. Through their filter, their conditioning, their discomfort.

3. The MEANING — what you decided the interpretation said about YOU.

That third layer is where the damage lives.

Most of us skip straight from their interpretation... to a verdict on our worth.

Without ever stopping to ask: “Wait — is this actually about me? Or is this about what they hold?”

We squish it all together and decide that the whole heap we're under is our responsibility to fix.

That’s conditioning.

That’s interpretation turned inward.

The Meaning Split™ doesn’t just give you a framework to walk it back. It gives you back your own perception.

The ability to see yourself clearly.

And for high-achieving Black women who have spent years in rooms that questioned their instincts — that is everything.

Instead of asking:

“What’s wrong with me?”

You ask:

“What meaning am I making right now and is it true?”

That question alone changes everything.

More tomorrow!

Dr. Pat

2293 Brockett Road, TUCKER, GA 30084
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